Hey Oil Bosses!
This is one of the most difficult things we have to deal with, because it's usually needed with people we are close to. That has been my case at least. But this is very important to do for the freedom to be yourself and for your own mental health. There are certain people in our life that can be very draining and negative, those who are constantly critical of the work we do and think they know better. If this sounds like something you are dealing with, you are not alone, so keep reading! I have had a couple of instances where the constant judgement of a few people would wear me down and cause me anxiety. Every time I would see a message from them in my DM's or FB messages, my heart would start pounding and my stomach would get upset, in fact I would feel nauseous! How can someone who is supposed to be caring and supportive make me feel that way?? It finally came to a point where I couldn't take it anymore. How can so few people make me feel this way? And why would they want to make me feel this way? So I blocked them! I decided that I could handle if they asked me why they aren't seeing my posts and content, clearly I am not for them! I am at complete peace about it and have never felt more free about how I put myself out there. I am 100% me on my social media accounts and proud of it. Remember, this is YOUR space, not theirs, you get to do what you want with it and if someone doesn't like it, they have the luxury to leave and if they don't, you have the control ultimately. Don't get me wrong, this is a difficult thing to do, especially if it's someone you will see again in person, but in time you will feel better about it. It took me at least a year to block a person recently, my mental health was worth it and I do not regret it!
For the people who need to still be in your life, make sure to keep them at arms length. Those are not the people you bring yours struggles, questions or even wins to, save those for people who are going to celebrate and encourage you! It is a process, but if you're willing to work on yourself, you will see that YOU ARE WORTH IT!!
Much love, your fellow Oil Boss, Amy